A friend recently asked me where I get the confidence to wear my natural hair out? She is natural as well but doesn’t feel confident enough to wear her hair out most of the time. This got me thinking back to the beginning of my own journey, I remember not feeling confident because half the time I didn’t know what I was doing. Many attempts at styling my hair at the time always felt like a failed attempt to me and I would instinctively want to hide my hair away under a protective style, which I did. So whether you recently went natural or have been on your journey for some time, but are still feeling insecure about wearing your afro out. I’ve got a few tips to help you build your confidence and enjoy growing out your hair.
Start by doing your research into your hair type
- If you have type 4 hair you don’t want to be looking at hair with much looser textures hoping your hair is one day going to behave in that way because it’s not.
- Understanding how your own hair behaves in different kinds of environments (hot, cold, humid weather), knowing your porosity and how your coils react to certain products.
- Learning healthy hair practices will help to boost your confidence throughout your journey because you know your story.
Once you’ve gone through the nitty-gritty of figuring out what works for your hair, it’s time fun with your ‘fro, look for hair styles which work for you and suit your lifestyle and rock the heck out of them. If you feel somewhat style challenged it’s completely cool because you don’t always have to follow the latest hair trends. Wether you have a signature Grecian flat twist or a high puff , do you girl. Because if your hair looks great you feel great right?
Ignore the negativity
In the beginning various comments came my way, I never got any nasty ones but constant snide remarks or incessant questions as to why you are no longer relaxing your hair can be discouraging at the beginning but you will learn to just block out the negativity. Remember it’s your hair and if you take everyone’s opinions to heart you won’t wear your hair out. And you know those same individuals will be asking you for hair advice when your hair is flourishing right?
So you may not like certain things about your hair. A genetically thin hairline or fine hair can make you feel self-conscious. Take a look at the men, yes men and women in your family, if you find it does run in the family then there isn’t much you can do about it. (I am referring to a completely healthy person, whose hair state is not related to any type of illness). Instead work with what you have, wear your hair in certain styles that don’t emphasize what makes you uncomfortable. Keep in mind most people don’t even notice what we consider as flaws in ourselves.
So go ahead, embrace your texture and rock your ‘fro with confidence. No one can tell you otherwise.